[vincent_richter]

Sigh. So you have honor, but no interest. Something about her squicked you out. That's not so unreasonable. What's unreasonable is pretending that she's the only option there, when you have to have seen the thousands of other women on campus. Seriously, find one in a class you attend, and get over yourself for a few minutes. Ask if she'd like to grab drinks or a movie some time, but start slow. You can make an intellectual connection off of shared interests, though I hear many of the most exhilarating combinations are those you would least expect.

The end result being this: if you never put yourself out there, nobody will ever find you. I've not ever been shot down in flames, but I've had the same results: everyone leaves. I'm trying to fix what's wrong with me that makes that happen, but I have no clue where to even begin. It's a demon I struggle with every waking hour of my life. It's left me a bitter, spent shell of a man.

Don't be me. Take a chance; even if you get slapped, it's better than never knowing for sure.