[scidram]

I'm gonna agree. Though the loss of control is part of the appeal for me, it's not in a BDSM kind of way. It's loss of control of the environment--clothes and everyday items growing more unwieldy as the woman shrinks. And yes, there's a bit of adventure in the oversized world that I enjoy. The shrinkee can be placed in some perilous situations--gotta build stakes in the story--but I don't enjoy seeing them maimed or killed. I prefer sex scenes to be gentle instead of rough. I may have read and written some cruelty & roughplay, but if you want to know preferences, this is it.